Imagine this: you have just walked into your mother’s home to give them the good news that you are getting married soon and you mother or grandmother runs to the attic to retrieve her old wedding dress because she always pictured you in it. You cringe. That dress is not only old but also out of style. It is definitely not what you had in mind when you envisioned your big day. You don’t want to disappoint your mother or grandmother but you also don’t want to look like you just stepped out of another decade.

So, how do you have your dream wedding dress or gown while making your mother’s dream come true?

The most obvious and easy way to own your mother’s dress or gown is changing the color. You can dye it at home or take it to a professional to do it for you. I know that it may be a strange suggestion to wear a differently colored wedding gown or dress but you may be surprised at what kind of atmosphere a red, fuchsia or black gown. You could also dye it blue and be your own something borrowed and something blue.

Another easy way to own that dress from the seventies or eighties is to change the neckline. Most gowns in the past were characterized by jewel and square necklines. You can change this to a sweetheart or asymmetrical neckline giving it a whole new look and character.

Embellishments are also another great way of transforming an old dress. You can use sequins, beads or even feathers to give the once plain looking white dress a whole new look. The thing to remember is that a little goes a long way so don’t overdo it.

In some rare occasions, you might find a dress that is just perfect and does not need any kind of alterations at all. In this situation, you can make the look your own by accessorizing. With the many veils, belts, boleros, headpieces and tiaras out there, you can easily transform the old dress and make it your own. Pearls were a big thing in the past but you could try pairing the dress with silver or golden bridal jewelry. It may seem like a small move but it will make all the difference.

If all else fails, you could always alter the dress completely. You could use a detail in the old dress as your baseline and completely redesign it. However, you should make sure you check with your mum before you change everything about her dress. Most people are sentimental when it comes to their wedding dresses and may not be okay with having the dress completely changed into a new dress. It is however important to note that this is a move a lot of people have taken including celebrities. Margot Robbie for example looked beautiful when she walked down the aisle to wed her boyfriend Tom Ackeley in December 2016. Many people thought her off-shoulder lace wedding gown to be a new edgy look by one of the designers but Robbie was actually wearing a thirty year old dress, her mother’s old dress.

The saying old is gold is true for a lot of things in this world including old wedding dresses. In a world where a new wedding dress goes for anything from $1,500 to even $50,000 on the higher side, your mum's old dress would save you a lot of money while giving you that ‘wow’ factor you need for your big day.